I first met Wen at Mel & Lynn's wedding, which i covered in Oct 2009. My first impressions of Wen were of his uncanny ability to make one feel at ease, with his genuine nature, soft-spoken tone of voice and a smile on his face that assured you that you were in the right company.
The second time I met Wen, was at Melben Seafood Restaurant, when Dennis & Charlene returned from San Jose, California to make arrangements for their wedding in June of 2010. It was at this very meeting where Wendy (my wife) discovered that Wen was her schoolmate at Nanyang Primary School, back in the 80s. Wendy tells me that Wen was one of the nicest people on earth, and I couldn't agree more.
The third time I met Wen again was at Dennis & Charlene's wedding. We didn't talk much because I was working while being as sick as a dog that day, and wasn't able to join them in the after-wedding party, as much as I wanted to.
Almost a year to the day we first met, Wen and I met yet again at another wedding. When I saw his familiar face, we shook hands, said hi, and I told him in a joking manner, "Dude, we've gotta stop meeting like this man." He laughed, and totally agreed with me. We made some casual conversation for a minute or two, before I had to peel myself away and got back to work again.
Yesterday was the 19th of December, 2010. I just found out that Wen had passed away at the tender age of 31, after he collapsed due to a heart attack, while having his favorite chicken rice and steamboat at Golden Mile. Wen's last words to Sharmin were,"Do you want some more chilli?".
It still feels rather surreal, and non of us can believe that Wen is no longer around. Despite not knowing Wen very well, I feel extremely saddened by his passing, especially since (at our last meeting) I jokingly said we shouldn't meet at weddings anymore ...a fact that suddenly holds far more weight than I can imagine.
Whatever the case is, I cannot help but look on the positive side of this experience. It has been a known fact that my inspiration in photography has been about the people. I am a photographer because people aren't around for the longest time, and as such, material things in weddings are somewhat secondary in my opinion. I've always cherished the opportunity to participate in the progression of people's lives, because I know that it is only through my eyes, that people can hold the best and worst experiences close to them, and grow with the memory of those experiences.
Somewhere along the way, I believe I lost track of my purpose in life, and I have been reminded of it once again.
So, to those who have had the honor of knowing Wen, I hope this image of him will give you the strength to move on with your lives, as much as he would have wanted you to.

In memory of Wen Tong, 1979 - 2010.